The Body Image Loop
Many gay men struggle with body image for a reason: we live in a subculture that often worships aesthetics like a religion.
“I’ve always preferred 20-30 minute workouts to hour long f*** around sessions,” said one guy, with another adding: “10-15 minutes for abs is plenty… Over training on abs isn’t going to be productive, you’re just going to waste time.”
For beginners who aren’t quite sure where to start with their six-pack routine, Men’s Health fitness director Ebenezer Samuel, C.S.C.S., recommends a simplified version of the Turkish getup maneuver.
"If there's one core move I'd love to get everyone doing, from beginners to advanced folks, it's this one," he says.
Your worth is not measured in likes.

And no matter how flawless someone looks online, they’ve got insecurities, too. “It’s about the intensity of your workout, not the length. A recent thread on Reddit prompted men to get honest about how they (at least claim to have) attained six-pack abs, and what is and isn’t productive, with a number of commenters concluding that, at the end of the day, it’s ”mostly diet and genes.”
High-protein, low-carb diets, combined with plenty of cardio, proved a popular formula on the thread, as did abstaining from booze.
Instead of merely isolating that and creating an opportunity to grow imbalanced, you finish with a potent glute squeeze." Check out the full workout here.
Philip Ellis
Philip Ellis is News Editor at Men's Health, covering fitness, pop culture, sex and relationships, and LGBTQ+ issues.
They’re as real as a drag queen’s eyelashes—gorgeous, yes, but not 100% natural. The altar? One “perfect” torso leads to another, and suddenly your brain is running a silent comparison chart, forgetting that everyone’s highlight reel hides the blooper reel.
The Humor in the Hurt
Here’s the thing: a lot of these “perfect” bodies?
Our phones. I once convinced myself I needed bigger shoulders because of a TikTok thirst trap… only to discover the guy was leaning forward, holding a dog. After about a month, I’d be able to tell the difference in the mirror after having two beers the night before.”
A lot of guys said that they had noticed a change after they started tracking their meals in a personal fitness app.
Remember—there’s no filter for self-esteem.
It’s okay to work toward your fitness goals. However, abs are built in the kitchen and the gym.